There are 5 essentials of jewelry that every girl needs in her jewelry box
We hsve already talked about stud earrings and hoop earrings, today we talk about
Everyone needs these, you want to make a statement but how cool would it be to be able to wear your statement pieces with a variety of wardrobe options, and being able to wear these statements season after season!
Yes please, tell me more!!!
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Never have I heard of this term either, this book is full of educational facts and it is proof you are never too old to learn or continue to learn. I consider myself a professional student.
White fragility is defined as a state in which minimum amount of racial stress becomes intolerable, triggering a range of defensive moves.
Think about that for a minute
I have experienced this first hand, remember a few posts back when I shared my very first facebook post that said I was standing with my black family, friends and those I have never met and I said “Black Lives matter!” and that post was met with so much anger so much hatred and so much ignorance.
I began seeing white fragility up close and personal and it wasn’t pretty. Sometimes the truth hurts though so here we go.
People commented on my post with words like ” it is a black problem” “I grew up in a different time and that is why I have a different perspective” “All Lives Matter” “Stop believing BLM” “BLM is a bad organization”
Everyone of those commenters were missing my point but were proving to me that white fragility is a real and a powerful thing.
Why is the phrase “Black Lives matters” so angering to some white people? I needed to figure it out, I mean you can disagree with me about a lot of things and I am fine with it I mean I can say I dont like a certain food and that food is your favorite people disagree everyday, God made us all uniquely different and so we all are not the same and that is a good thing. But when I take a stand and say that human life is precious and that black lives matter because in the past 3 months we know of 4 major killings of black individuals their lives are in danger, we have to recognize that we must recognize that.
Once reading this book with this particular chapter it all made perfect sense to me. White people have always been on top always had the upper hand and always had the advantage, the supreme group of people, the best, the center of attention, and now the “Black Lives Matter” movement is taking that away making white people feel uncomfortable feeling like white lives are not as important. (this is not the case at all but how often do you see a white person get pulled over get yanked out of their car thrown onto the ground in a choke hold or shot by police…. I will give you a second you may need to read that question again…. not very often if ever!!! On the contrary we see it happen far too often with people of color, it isn’t right it has to stop, their lives matter too!
When responding to Black Lives matter statement with “All lives matter” it makes white people look fragile, immature, selfish, insensitive and foolish.
I encourage you the next time you read black lives matter and feel like you are getting angry or defensive take a minute before you respond, consider why are you getting so angry, what would God say about the statement, look inward are you perhaps part of the problem?
the song that we teach our children to sing in children’s church Jesus loves the children
“Jesus loves the little children, all the children of the world red or yellow black and white they are precious in his sight Jesus loves the little children of the world
Did you ever notice that white is the last to be named? Hmmmm that is something to think about!
White fragility is trying to justify to others you are not a racist. When people have to say it out loud to other people it is a good sign that they exhibit racial tendencies or racial bias or are in fact racist.
It is not enough to be Not a racist we have to be Anti-racist
For affordable tickets to my most favorite destination… Florida among other places but I fly to Florida 1-4 times per year to see family and it is such a convenient way to fly
Here are some tips when booking an allegianr flight
Don’t get too excited when it says your flight is $29.00
The flight price shown is Ala carte style
Make sure you pack light try to get everything in a carry on or a checked bag but you won’t want both
The flights are direct nonstop flights
All food and beverage service is a paid service meaning no commentary beverage or snack unless you are an allegant Mastercard holder
The best seats on the plane cost more but it is worth it
Get travel insurance
Typically if you go to purchase airfare you will see a price and then once you proceed to book that flight you will see the extra government surcharge and taxes added on but for the most part the ticket price is very close to whet you end up paying.
With Ala Carte pricing you will see an amazing price of $25 $ 45 $60 dollars for a flight(wow that is amazing you say let’s go on vacation right now at that price!!!!) But then you realize that low price is one way only and you must pay a second price for your return flight(it is still low though)
Once you select your desired dates… keep on mid they don’t fly everyday and sometimes especially during non-peak season they may only have one flight per day.
Allegiant just introduced bundles recently I am not sure of the exact date. Essentially what this does is helps to lower the price of all the add-ons
The three bundles are
You will still need to add all your extras like bags, seats and more later on in booking process
Allegiant bonus adds $118.00 per person
One personal item
Carry on bag
Trip flex insurance
Allegiant total- adds $171.98 per person
One personal item
Carry on bag
Trip flex insurance
I am going to walk you through a booking to Florida from WV
Flight price $49 each way
If I choose allegiant basic here is my total
Taxes, carrier charge, govt fees- 112.40
Seats-seat selection cost $0.00-$80.00 per passenger per way
Priority boarding- $4-$12 per passenger per flight
Trip flex insurance-$8-$20 per passenger per flight
Carry on bag- $10-$75
In flight refreshments- $2-$7
So you can see how your $49.00 trip can quickly turn into $100s of dollars for a flight
Well so now you are probably wondering why would I be recommending Allegiant why not fly United or Delta or American…?
Well it is convenient for me, the airport is close, the flight is direct and short at 1.5 hours you’re in Florida at the beach, yes please!!! The staff feels like family, now you will probably encounter a flight attendant or too who are grumpy but 99% of my flight experiences with Allegiant have been very positive, with nice polite and friendly flight crew.
I have had 2 experiences in which my flight was severely delayed, in both instances they went above and beyond to accommodate us, the first flight that was delayed they ordered pizza hut and fed us dinner for free
The second flight that was delayed they fed us from the airport restaraunt and gave us vouchers for a free future flight!!!
Allegiant is the way to go for me and my family, quick, convenient and somewhat affordable!
Go here to see all the deals Allegiant has and where in the world they fly, hey maybe you can fly Allegiant on your next trip!!
During quarantine I kept thinking how cool it would be to go on a picnic. Which is probably the funniest thing ever considering I dont really like the idea of eating outside.
Then our state began its re-opening plan and made it to where restaurants who had outside eating could re-open, Okay I am good with that.
We have eaten mexican outside, pizza outside, BBQ outside, ice cream outside, sandwiches outside, fish outside… anywhere that has outdoor seating we would go.
But what about a picnic? wouldnt that be fun?
Every Friday night we (my mom and me) take my moms friend out for dinner and we call it girls night out and we typically make them into tiny adventures were we end up laughing so hard we cry, it is so much fun!
So last week after the mis adventure we had (that will have to be a whole other post on its own) I decided that this week it would be perfect time to try having a picnic!
I planned it all out, I gathered my supplies and presented the plan to my mom who said this sounds fun and lets make this a fun surprise.
I arranged to pick our friend up at 4:30PM the picnic supplies in the back of my car
we began driving, got on interstate drove for 20 minutes and got off went into Captain D’s parking lot which was empty she said “no one is here!” then there was a sign that said Drive thru only! PERFECT!!!!
We ordered our 3 piece fish meals and drove off to the local park found us a nice picnic table under a shelter and began setting everything up. I brought a tablecloth, paper plates, real silverware, sweet tea my mom made, ice and cups, salt/pepper, ketchup, ranch and lots of napkins
We had the best time eating our fish outside alone there was not anyone else there and then we packed up and left went to DQ to try the new drumstick blizzard which I am not a big fan I would rather have my heath or oreo blizzard but at least I tried it.
Have you ever had a picnic? if not you should definitely try it, super fun!
So are you looking at your bank account wishing you had a little extra money, or maybe you desire a discount or instant rebate for shopping, or maybe you just need something to do to keep you busy
Regardless of your reasons for joining a direct sales company there are some things to consider before signing up
The founder and their why
You will want to research the company founder and what was their why for starting the company. Also while you are looking at this information research the executive team leading the company. How long has the company been around.
Company financial state
Knowing this will help you feel more secure in signing up with a company
The company mission or values
Does the mission statement or list of company values align with your own? Definitely something to consider. Are yiu willing to stand up anfmd support the company mission, are you willing to.abide by the company values?
The compensation plan
This is how you will get paid so this is very important that you understand how you get paid, how much you get paid and how often you get paid. Make sure you agree with and are okay with the compensation plan(the company is not going to change the comp plan just because you don’t like it or think it isnt fair. Don’t be afraid to ask your recruiter or the home office to explain the comp plan to you, ask every question that you have.
What does the company sell? Is the product line streamlined or all over the place and confusing? Do you support the product, is the quality something you stand behind?
Is there a variety in products and price points available
The price point
This is important, and goes along with the comp plan because this is in essence how you will get paid. Is the price point so high younare going to have trouble finding shoppers, is the price point too low that people will think the product is cheap?
How many stylists are in a 50 mile radius of your home
Is the market saturated, the more saturated the harder it is going to be for you to find potential customers, hostesses, stylists or reps. It is not impossible but will be harder
Any associated fees required from you
Do you have to pay for your e-commerce website? Do you have to purchase business supplies like catalogs and order forms(consider the price)? Do you have to keep inventory of products?
What are the sales/recruiting/home shows quotas that are required for you to remain active on the team?
Price to start
How much is it to sign up and what do you get for that money
Non compete clause
Will the direct sales company that you are considering joining allow you to represent more than one company at a time?
Will you use the products?
I know that probably sounds crazy, but really consider are you willing to pay full price for the item and will you use or wear the product enough to show it? If you don’t wear makeup I probably wouldn’t suggest you becoming a Mary Kay rep, if you don’t wear jewelry I wouldn’t suggest you becoming a Park Lane stylist. You have to be passionate about the product(s) your company has to offer in order to be successful
Things to keep in mind
Direct sales is not a get rich quick scheme and it is not a sit back and relax to wait for the sales to come in kind of gig either, be prepared to work for what you make!!!
*Once you do your research and you find a company that aligns with you, sign up and start working and earning that money!!!
*Direct sales is a lucrative way to make some extra money but it takes a lot of hard work and dedication to truly be successful, if you treat the direct sales business like a hobby or side job it will pay you as such. If you treat the direct sales business like a business it will pay you big!!!
I am currently with 2 direct sales businesses and love it
Ruby Ribbon is a shape wear and intimate apparel company founded in 2011, I joined in 2013 with less than 100 stylists in the USA now we have over 1000😲
Park Lane is a jewelry company founded in 1955, I joined in 2020, I couldn’t begin to tell you how many stylists we have but we are worldwide!!!
The 2 companies that I am with have very different comp plans, product offerings, price points, and 2 very different reasons for me joining, I love both for very different reasons too.
I encourage you if you are seriously considering starting a home based business to really research it, look it up on IG, FB and google find stylists or reps on social media and follow them.
“I was taught to see racism only in individual acts of meanness, not in invisible systems conferring dominance on my group” -Peggy Mcintosh
White Privilege- I am 33 and never heard of white privilege. Learning the meaning made me so sad, it is true, it needs to change, no one should have any advantage over someone else based solely on the color of their skin.
Race is actually not a biological fact but it is a social concept- this statement in this chapter peaked my interest and I began to really focus on this. What does the author mean here when she is saying that race is not biological, I mean isn’t that where the color of skin comes from? hmmmmm lets research this a little more by reading further. I have medical background and training so I understand genes and genetic makeup this was very interesting to me.
The percent of genes that are expressed on the outside someones appearance is 0.01% (wow that is not even 1%). the Observational differences that we see with our eyes when we look at other people when we see “different races” are just genotypes and phenotypes.
Genotype is defined as the genetic constitution of an individual organism.
Phenotype is defined as the set of observable characteristics of an individual resulting from the interaction of its genotype with the environment.
There is truly just one race of people and that is the Human Race. WOW this is amazing and true and wow if there is just one race their should never be racism
the journal prompts at the end of each chapter are heavy but truly taking the time and answering them honestly is only going to help you get through this is only going to help grow you and help you be part of the solution. (I am not sharing my answers to the journal prompts here these are personal)
This book may make us uncomfortable, we may begin to feel like getting defensive but for it to truly work we must use our un-comfortableness(this is not even a word but you know what I mean) and work through it.
White privilege example that really made sense to me and clicked I want to share it here(not in this book)
Imagine you are in a race running and your opponent is a black person. The whistle blows and you are off you take off running look beside you and your opponent is not there? They had been told before the race began that when the whistle blows only the white racer can begin running. You continue running around the track and as you approach the start line for the 1st lap to complete they allow the black racer to begin to run. You speed up a little bit and pass the other racer and at this time you know you are winning so you don’t even look behind you to see how far back the black racer is. At the end of the race the white racer obviously won but was it fair? The judges say yes because they gave the black racer the opportunity to run the race. This is how it has been for the black community in real life, so far behind white people that we don’t even look back to see how close or far they are from us, we know that we are winning. Isn’t that sad, we can change this.
Check your white privilege– it may be uncomfortable but necessary!
We would traditionally have a huge 4th of July Celebration with our family and friends complete with a cookout, homemade ice cream, sprinklers and water balloons, and finish the evening with a firework display!
This year is a little different, we will still be cooking out just on a smaller scale and we will be watching the Macy’s fourth of July Fireworks celebration on the TV.
Enjoying a nice here at the house, it will be a good day!!!
I do want to share a recipe with you though before I go fire up the grill🔥
Introducing my not potato potato salad– taken from Taste of home many years ago here is my version… sometimes I will make this and take it in my lunch at work it is so easy and tastes just like potato salad, without all the hassle of cooking potatoes
No Potatoes needed Potato salad
Here is what you will need
2 cups of minute rice
2 cups water
1.5-2 cups mayo
1/4 cup yellow mustard
1/2 medium onion diced
1 stalk celery diced
5 dill pickle chips diced (optional)
2 hard boiled eggs
Salt and pepper to taste
Bring 2 cups water to a boil
Remove from heat and stir
Cover and let sit fir 5 minutes
Put rice in a serving bowl or storage bowl
Add veggies and fold in mayo/mustard
Add salt and pepper
Peel and slice one egg and dice the other egg
Fold in diced eggs and lay the sliced eggs on top
Sprinkle some black pepper on top
Refridgerate for a couple hours
Serve and enjoy
Will keep in fridge for 3-4 days
Enjoy and the next time you need a dish for a potluck or family cookout think about bringing this… it will be a huge hit!